How’s Married Life?

One of the questions I’ve had a lot over the last few months has, understandably, been: “How’s married life?”. It’s quite a funny question. It doesn’t actually encourage a very long answer, and is summed up by “it’s great I love it!” or something to that effect before the conversation swiftly moves on to other things.

But since you and I have a bit more of a one way conversation, me doing all the talking (or writing in this case), and you doing all the listening (well, reading), I can probably expand on it a bit more.

The funny thing is, for me, life hasn’t really changed all that much. I mean on the one hand it totally has, I have a husband and a bigger place to live in. I have two people to cook for instead of just me. I officially have two sides to my family, although to be honest I already felt that before being married. And I suppose, reflecting on it now, that the biggest change is probably not one that you can see, which is that I feel more secure here, in many senses, as a foreigner living abroad, since I’m now married to my person and we’re facing the things together.

But anyways, I was talking to a friend about it and a lot of the things that usually go hand-in-hand with getting married, at least in England, we haven’t had. The graduating university, moving somewhere new and starting a new job… Well, we’ve not had any of that. Didn’t go to university, didn’t move anywhere (well, I did but only ten minutes down the road and that was a faff at that! Probably shouldn’t complain) and both our jobs have stayed the same! So life has changed fundamentally with the whole marriage sitch, but also not at the same time. I kind of thought life would feel completely and utterly different but a lot is still the same haha.

One thing I would say that is a marked change, is that there is so much more laundry than I anticipated. I don’t know if it’s just because we now have a washing machine whereas I didn’t before so now I can put a load on whenever I jolly well please, but honestly, why is there always laundry to be done? I can’t even imagine what it must be like having more than two of you. At this point I’m starting to wonder if there’s someone else living here who’s contributing their laundry to the basket!

Something that I think took Nolz by surprise, was that I can be quite verbal when asleep it seems. I’ve known for ages that I talk in my sleep, sometimes jibberish, other times actual sentences which vary in degrees of making sense, but I think it rather came as a bit of a surprise to Nolz when on honeymoon I started asking him if he had been at the bar with my Auntie Rachel and was very shocked when he told me that Auntie Rachel and in fact the rest of my family had gone back home. I then later, unbeknownst to me because I thought I was saying it in my head, started muttering the story to myself, as I wanted to relay it to my family! I very vaguely remember this happening but it’s all a bit hazy.

Another thing that’s come as a surprise for me with being married is the amount that Nolz sings! It’s real

But anyways, here we are three months and though I joke and jest, I, and we both, are loving married life and we’re very happy. We’re both still rather astonished that we could get married with my close family here and with COVID and everything that could have happened and feel very blessed to have finally made it!